It's Happening! CORE III/IV Coming to Springfield in July

I’ve been doing less and less in these COVID times, and especially as I’m now approaching 71 and not really needing or wanting to put as much energy into ‘creating wealth’ and more energy into ‘enjoying life’. To that end I hope to spend a longer time in Crete this fall, where I expect to work on my language skiills, visit with friends, swim in the sea and tend my small garden of potted plants. Sounds like the perfect way to wind down from years of work.

But, I don’t go quietly! Later this month I’ll be offering yet another CORE III/IV class, here in Springfield, MO, where four students will be advancing up the CORE ladder. I’m very excited that several are on the teacher track and I feel really good about the skills of those coming to the class. And an added bonus: Liz Buri, Level II Instructor, will be arriving soon from Malaysia to assist in this class and do work with one of the students who wants to advance the CORE work here in US. So overall, later July will be a difficult week, but the rewards of being with intelligent and enthused younger people makes my life so much more rewarding. And I am just as nurtured by their energies, questions, challenges as they are rewarded by my ideas and instruction.

I had a conversation recently with another instructor. I tend to offer a course, then immediately go back into my handout and ‘rework’ yet again…I want to continue to update and delete what doesn’t work, add what’s missing, and in general continue to improve the ‘product’ that we offer our students. Her comment was that the handouts are good as they are; why alter them? My feeling is I’ll never find perfection in any handout, but I can continue to work to upgrade and offer the best, most timely version of me to my students and instructors. So even when I retire totally, will I continue to tinker with the materials? Probably, yes.

Meanwhile, it is so nice to have a lovely summer…our town is now officially a hot spot in the COVID was; we have a vaccination rate of something like 36% vs the national average of perhaps 45—48%. Many people in our area are not only not interested in receiving this ‘experimental’ vaccine, but are actually suspicious of being around people who have been vaccinated. Though I’ve had my two shots long ago, I’m back to wearing a mask outside the home as our hospitals are now overflowing with the new Delta strain, and daily I hear more stories about people who wish they’d gotten a vaccine—while they’re on their deathbed. I’m aware that none of us has all the right answers, and that individuals do have rights. I’m also of the opinion that individuals have responsibilities as well…and for me, a responsible adult who makes the choice to go without a vaccination could therefore make the choice to stay at home and not be part of the problem. But, I guess we’re going to learn as time goes by, what the correct path has been. Personally I think I know. That is my decision, I hope you are clear in yours. Our class will be safe; vaccinated people, and wearing masks when we bring in models.

Here’s to a safe rest of the year!

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Coming Soon: The Essential CORE, my text for bodyworkers

I’m not sure how I started out deciding I needed to write, but on one of my early work trips to London I started jotting down notes. These notes eventually decided what they wanted to transmit to others and those jottings became my first two books. My publisher, Jessica Kingsley, also served as a creative editor for me. I found her questions to stimulate and challenge me to find yet another and another layer of what I wanted to communicate. The result: I now have five books published and happily I’m working on my Opus Magnus, the ‘This is What I Think I Know’ book.

This book is titled The Essential CORE: Bodywork with Hands, Head and Heart. I’m self-publishing this one, because the publisher had less interest in publishing a book when I no longer want to travel and promote it. And I’m less interested in selling many copies as I am in reaching the people who have found me in the past and want to find me in the present…the future will take care of itself. So I’m working, formatting, and waiting on the illustrations so I can publish both a hard copy and a Kindle version. I think it will be a good book!

I’ve divided this coming offering into two sections. The first I think of as ‘The CORE Philosophy’ and in this section we’ll discuss things many massage and bodywork trainings simply ignore or gloss over as they train students. We’ll think about learning to coax the tissue, read the signals a client sends, ride the breath, call for movement and learning to give that client something to think about once they’ve left and gone back into their world. The second section is devoted to giving the blueprints for my five session series…very specific directions that will help any bodyworker become more efficient and effective as they work through the book.

Now, no one can learn everything they need from a book alone, in my opinion. Obviously I believe the hands-on experience is important; thus I’ve been training instructors to take the baton when I’ve let go of it (and I haven’t let go just yet!). I’m hoping the book will stimulate students to read, practice, and seek a bit of guidance, and hopefully the advanced classes from a qualified instructor.

So…look for this book! I’ll make the announcement when it finally happens. I’m finding myself less interested in meeting deadlines and more interested in getting it right. So no promises, but I’m working on what I hope will be really good book.  Art Riggs, author of Deep Tissue Massage and a rolfer, has this to say about the new book: “Many texts confine themselves to narrow single parameters of hand-on skills of body mechanics and touch; or specific “spot work” techniques for isolated areas; or philosophy and psychology. Noah combines all of these subjects in one text to integrate manual and personal skills for a deep connection between bodywork and the human beings behind the symptoms.” Fine words from Art, and I’m grateful he sees what I’m after! I hope when The Essential CORE is available you’ll have a look and see it as a chance to enhance your skills and your practice.

Last note: It’s possible there’s one more book in me, and it would be the same ‘What I Think I Know’, but trying to translate it into a way that lay people with no experience in bodywork could learn how to work with self and others in their circle to offer the healing I think is inherent in all of us. So one day….

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Ethics: It’s All About the Right Use of Power

It’s been on my mind a lot lately as I look at my personal world and the larger one, that too many people seem invested in gaining and maintaining power. Clearly in the political realm, far too many of our public ‘servants’ are serving themselves. One doesn’t enter Congress with a net worth of $500,000 and leave with millions unless they’re a bit more concerned with feathering their own nest to a larger degree than they’re wanting to help the larger ‘we’, and far too many seem to be on that money and power path. I’m certainly aware that there are good public servants and I’m sorry for the many who give them a bad name. But that’s where we seem to be these days.

Years ago when I was disappointed in one of our leaders, I wondered what I could do to make things better. I decided my answer was to try to be the best me I could be. I turned to a random page of the Bible, which I sometimes do. The scripture I found; “Let your yes be yes and your no be no” really resonated for me. I was serving as church board president and looking at reining in a minister who seemed more interested in status and money than in serving the congregation. I had to learn to set some boundaries that were difficult, but that created better communications as we resolved issues.

Why I’m writing this blog goes along with that thought: I want change in the world? I need to change something about the way I work in the world. And as I’m a bodyworker and bodywork instructor (though far more limited in the advancing years and COVID times) I want to live my truth, but also share it with those with whom I connect. I’m finding I see a parallel between too many of us: bodyworkers, ministers, doctors, politicians, business people, any who seem to be in what could and should be a ‘helping’ profession often seem to be more intent on helping themselves feel better: more prestige, more money, more business or clients, more power. This seems unethical to me.

Years ago a client pointed out to me that the word ‘therapist’ could be divided into two words: ‘the rapist’. She felt that she had worked with various therapists who simply wanted to make her ‘get better’ so they had a feather in their cap—even when they were admitting to her they didn’t know how to help! I’ve seen this problem as well, and sadly, have probably been guilty on occasion of believing I had the right answers for someone else. We all occasionally forget to take the log out of our own eyes so we can help our neighbor remove the speck in his eye. So while I’m generally pretty careful about what I suggest (not promise!) I can deliver to a client or patron when we work, I do stumble as well. I’m careful to try to keep my patrons steering their own ship to recovery instead of telling them I’m the captain of their process.

I’ve never made a monumental living, but I’ve always been comfortable! I’ve gained some prestige, but that wasn’t my intention. I’ve always done my work, keeping my head as low as a Leo can do, in a way that encourages those around me to develop their potentials with my guidance but not my guidelines. I make suggestions, not pronouncements. I’ve seen too many therapists who tell their clients: “If you’re not getting better it’s because either you’re not doing what I tell you to do, or you just don’t want health enough to go for it.” Balderdash! Nobody wants to get stuck and stay in stuck; they just aren’t yet getting the help they need!

My point: too many of us are experiencing what I’m going to call too much greed—greed for money, for power, for prestige, for a self-esteem that can’t come from without but must come from within and doesn’t come from ‘healing’ anyone but oneself. I feel the world is going/has gone crazy precisely because too many of us are trying to prove, and prove, and overprove to the world how important, how wealthy, how handsome, how talented, how necessary we are. It’s a lie. We’re equally necessary in the eyes of whatever Creator we share, and those who feel the need to be King of the Hill in every moment are not only not helping the greater ‘us’; they’re actually not helping themselves.

I can’t say my ethical conduct is better or worse than others: I can say that for me, ethics is trying to help others find their personal power instead of robbing them of it.

Power and status are dishes meant to be eaten in small doses, I think. I grieve that we’ve created a society where power and status are celebrated, and too many seem to find the need to sit on the top of the hill and look down on others. We are all in this together. To be ethical, I think we all need to believe and practice this concept of being there to enhance all of us instead of only that needy, greedy ‘me’.

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Get Out There and MOVE!

I tend to love spring and summer best, and one reason is very simple; it’s more fun to be out in the world when the weather is nice. My yard in the Springfield home has been my saving grace through pandemic; I can work in the garden, shovel gravel for the back area, pressure wash decks and furniture, plant flowers and vegetables, and enjoy working as a substitute for exercising, which has never been my favorite thing. Once it’s fun to be outside, I have fun outside at whichever task I choose in the moment. I really enjoy the Zen of my yard!

On any regular day of the year my morning routine consists of a few vitamins, then a 20 minute walk inside the house to get in the first mile of the day. I choose to walk in the house simply because it’s less easy to talk myself out of the walk; who cares if it’s raining, snowing, too hot or too cold? I have no excuse and that’s the way things work best for me. After, another supplement taken, then I move on to my ‘workout room’ which has a sit up bench, a rebounder and five pound weights. I spend roughly another 20 minutes moving in this style.

In the summer however, I’m giving myself a bit of a break from the workout…if I know it’s a day to shovel gravel, I’ll probably forgo the twists with weights…I know the purposeful movement of accomplishing a task will also accomplish the stretching and movement of my body parts. At the end of the day in this fairly tired and very injured old body, as we sit to watch a bit of TV, chances are I’ll get on the floor for stretching as I listen in. Even though I believe in the adage, “Use it or lose it” I still have trouble motivating myself to move enough, and I pay attention. I grieve for those trapped at a computer for hours at a time, or sitting in a cross country truck, or on a ladder painting nonstop, or any of the many ways we get stuck in a specific movement to the detriment of a flowing movement pattern in the body.

My nearly 98 year old father in law passed recently. He spent only about 3 months on the actual death process after years of living alone in a two story house with his bedroom and bathroom upstairs and his laundry in the basement. He claimed those steps were his exercise. Towards the end of his life, here was the story: “I know I need to move, but it hurts too much!” To some degree, this is too many of us. When it takes more energy to just move than we feel we have, we stop. That’s the absolute worst thing we can do.

I emulate my grandfather who died at 92 (my father, an angry man died at 60 so I don’t want to mimic that behavior!); a farmer and gardener. I seem to remember he had a heart attack around the age of 75—78, but he never stopped! He simply slowed down a bit more each day, and he remembered to take frequent rest breaks. I find myself doing the same thing. I’ll still weed a flower bed intensely, but I’ll remember to get up and stretch. I’ll still shovel 1000 pounds of gravel occasionally, but I’ll remember to measure how many shovels of gravel suggest it’s time for a short rest.

So for me, a key to movement is first, make the movement have a good purpose, whether it’s achieving health and flexibility, or needing to accomplish a task. Second, don’t overdo, and remember to try to add breath into the movement. Third, don’t stop! Slow down if you must, but keep moving as much as you can do so. And last, we all fall off a bicycle occasionally! No shame there…but get back on it. If you find you’re criticizing self for not getting enough done, get back in there as much as you can, and work to create the right habits instead of letting yourself get stuck in the bad ones.

I have a chapter in my book The Self-Care Guide to Surgery (Singing Dragon, 2020) titled Mindful Movement, Where You Are. The concept is good: anything around you can be your exercise equipment, be it the stairway, an armchair, the kitchen sink, a desk or table…all these things can serve as exercise tools if you allow yourself to see them that way and explore the movements. So, whether you choose to invest in fancy equipment or a fitness center membership, or just practice walking circuits of your home, can you see the goal as exploration of movement instead of feeling you must achieve something? Move for the joy, not the must-do!

Use it or lose it…that says it all, but do it with joy and enth

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I'm BACK!

We’ve all had an interesting year. Part of what’s so interesting is how we’ve each reacted. We’re learning to adapt to the circumstances. I’ve been fortunate; I could afford to ‘semi-retire’, play in my garden/yard, and be close to nature when I couldn’t interact with people. If anything, this year gave me a time to get a bit closer to myself. Those of us who didn’t have to add the stress of money worries have had a pretty good year. It wasn’t the year I might have wanted, but it’s been a good one nevertheless.

But: I’m back! Last week I had two absolute workdays, back to back. On Friday last I drove to Columbia, MO and spent a day with Albino Sandoval, who is the newest addition to our CORE Instructor roster. Albino is planning to offer the “Top Ten Hot Spots” course in October…possibly in Kansas City, Jefferson City, and St. Louis, MO. It’s a great six hour day dealing with my favorite spots in the body to make changes quickly. Albino and I spent a day discussing teaching strategies, then he both treated and talked to me/taught me about what he was doing. A satisfying treatment, and a satisfying learning for him.

The next day I moved on to Jefferson City to offer my newest class, “Resetting the Nerve of Safety and Well-Being. This class deals with the vagus nerve and what I’m calling the Evolutionary Vagal Complex, or EVC. I’m getting more and more interested in trying to sort out how, in these troubling times of the past year, one can stay resilient, and live in a state of self-soothed parasympathetic ability to take it all in without getting stuck in whatever ‘it’ is. We’ve all had a stressful year; how have we dealt? Did we simply shut down and play dead? Did we try to resist and fight at every step? Did we just give up and run away? Or did we try to find, face, feel, and free and forget the trauma? To me, that is the definition of resilience and what some would call ‘self-soothing’ and what I think of as resetting the vagus system or revitalizing the social engagement system.

Anyway, we had a lovely space thanks to Rose Grotjan, massage therapist and mentor in the Jefferson City area. Fifteen students gathered for the six hours of talk about not only the vagus, but the complex, and the various techniques and schools that in some way or another contribute to vagal health. All who came to the class seemed stimulated and challenged, so I left VERY tired, but very happy. After two work days and two three hour drives, Monday was a definite day of rest!

We’re adding an additional section of this vagus class on May 15 (Saturday) in Kansas City, MO. This class will soon be on the website if you’d like to enroll. Thought: This class isn’t only for massagers! I frankly wish everyone in the world would stop to think about the vagal complex and learn what they can do to help self and other heal that system. I’m interested in getting doctors, nurses, any health professionals, but anyone who wants to help self and others feel better! A rather lofty goal, don’t you think? But the good news is: Coming back to the teaching world is getting me juiced again. I’m back!

 

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So--Do I Re-emerge?

It’s been an interesting year for all of us. Remember the supposed Chinese curse “May you live in interesting times”? Well, we’re there. All of us had a life that seemed to be going in one direction; suddenly we were thwarted from our goals, our interactions, our tasks. Some adapted well and some not so well. As resilience is one of my favorite words, and states of being, I like to think I’ve coped fairly well. And yet….

Do I return to life as ‘normal’, whatever that means? Do I choose to return to work one year later and reclaim a bodywork business? Or do I simply putter in the back yard and garden, see less people, and make peace with nature and the silence it offers? I believe a similar question faces most of us. How far do we want to return to our old lives? How socially engaged do we want to be after being isolated and quarantined from people for so long?

Social engagement is such an interesting concept, with its upside and its downside. On one hand, it’s clear from research that people who are socially engaged live longer and more rewarding lives much of the time (though those who choose to remove themselves from society seem to do just fine). The ability to exchange ideas, energy, and socialization with others is a building block to health. And yet…revisit those above who remove themselves from the world—in religious orders, hermiting behavior, or for whichever reason setting self apart from the world and living in something of a cocoon. Is this a bad thing? I’m toying with this question.

I’ve found myself returning to an earlier time in my life when I felt depressed…early in my bodywork career and before I’d established a clientele I’d arrive at my office for perhaps one, or more often, no appointments scheduled for the day. I’d lie on the massage table and nap; get up for a toilet break, and go right back to the table. Finally I began making short lists: check the mail, make two calls, have lunch out where you might recruit a client. Usually these lists were that small, that insignificant, and that easy to complete. Yet often I couldn’t finish all the tasks of the day. But I gave myself credit for what I did accomplish.

These days, something similar has happened to me during COVID. I hear it from friends and family as well—many of us just don’t feel ‘motivated’ to move forward. What’s the use? Why bother?

I’ve long believed that those who live with a purpose, a goal, a driver or anything that causes them to want to get up and go keeps them healthier. These days, my goals have shrunk…it’s more about relaying bricks in the backyard sidewalks, or leveling the utility shed, or planting more bulbs. My universe has shrunk, and I’ve nearly decided I prefer this smaller version.

Now, let me hasten to add: I have a few classes scheduled for this year and several more in my head; I’m working on delivering what may be my last book, the text of what I think I know about bodywork, and I’m active in creating a network of CORE workers around the world. Just at slower speed! We’re beginning to socialize again as we and most of our older friends have now had their vaccines. While I honor these loftier goals, I’m learning to  be at peace with the smaller ones; getting the deck cleaned, the junk sorted, and then the views enjoyed, the solitude appreciated. I think, and hope, many of us are finding a similar feeling, and I hope we can hold that feeling as we move out of pandemic mindset into the new reality, whatever that looks like.

My hope: That we all choose to slow down, think about what we were doing before COVID changed our world, and truly think about whether we want to go back to that old worker bee world or whether we’d prefer to remember that while work is OK, other things are important as well. To be with those we love; to be with nature, to be with whatever makes us feel both useful, productive, and happy: those are my goals. It’s a fine question: How do you plan to have a different world on the other side of pandemic?

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Personal News for March 2021

Wow! I hope your world is still safe and habitable. I'm happy to report that Gloria has had both COVID vaccinations and I've had the first shot, with the next one coming soon. We hope to be able to travel back to Crete one day, but who knows?

Gloria enjoying a restaurant break.

Gloria enjoying a restaurant break.

Gloria’s father

In sad news, we lost Gloria's father, George Galanes, in Cincinnati, Ohio, in February. It was time—at 97 he could no longer live at home alone, so after moving from hospital to rehab to independent living to hospice to quarantine to a double room to an assisted living apartment in three months, he passed quietly after saying goodbye to us all. A fine man, and he will be missed. So we've also been back and forth to Ohio quite a bit in the last several months. Considering we don't travel these days, we have been burning up the roads!

Next book work

I'm still working on the self-publish aspect of the sixth book; now titled "The Essential CORE: Bodywork with Hands, Head and Heart.” The first half is devoted to philosophy of good deep tissue work and the second half explains and teaches my five-session blueprints for good work. No publication date in the offing. I now have the photos created, still waiting on illustrations. One day…

A fixer-upper project

My daughter Molly has bought a “fixer-upper” in Lockhart, Texas, and is in the process of rehabilitating a house that hasn't been lived in for 25 years! I've therefore made about four trips down since last July to help with the remodel—a learning experience for us both since we're so different and so alike! Not sure when I'll be back to work with her again.

Daughter Molly’s fixer-upper house project

Daughter Molly’s fixer-upper house project

Back to traveling for fun?

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Sadly, will I ever get back to Crete at again? I'm beginning to hope our time is coming, as many more are getting vaccinated, and Europe seems to be relaxing some of the standards…we'll see. We did make a pretty safe vacation in late September/early October—a non-stop drive to visit a nephew in Colorado, a view of Devils Tower in Wyoming and Mount Rushmore in South Dakota before driving home, quickly.

What IS the New Normal?

We're all beginning to have lockdown fever and wanting to get back into the world as soon as possible. Do we call this condition COVID fatigue? Whatever it is, it certainly makes us all realize how much we've been missing face-to-face socialization and the ability to get up and go when we feel like it. However, do we want to return to the 'old normal'?

I've found over the course of the lockdowns that I rather like the new world where I spend much more time in the quiet, in the yard and garden, tending nature and my spirit. I hope it's the same for you! And I hope the experience will give you what it's given me—that ability to slow down and appreciate where I am in the moment instead of rushing to get to some moment in the future. This may be easier for me than for you; simply because I'm pretty much retired and less worried about making an income to tend to my “needs.” Making less money has also made me more aware of how much of my money went to unnecessary expenses. This is a lesson we probably all need to remember.

Years ago I found a poem that stuck in my head. It was called “My Name Is I AM” and was written by Helen Mallicoat. I called Helen and got permission to write a song using her words. The content goes something like this:

I was talking to the Lord and looking for an answer; guilty from the past and fearful of the future. I'd forgotten my trust; needed someone to save me, when I heard a still small voice and the words that it gave me: My name is I AM it said.

When you live in the past with its mistakes and regrets it is hard, for I am not there. When you live in the future with its worries and fears, it is hard; for I am not there. My name is not I was; my name is not I will be; my name is I AM, and I AM that I AM.

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So calmly I'm sticking my toe back into the river of life; offering a few sessions to past clients, reaching out with the vagus class at the invitation of Rose Grotjan, making tentative plans for what the spring, summer and fall may or may not look like (possibly a III/IV in Crete this fall!), and thinking hard about just how far into the world's drama I want to place myself. I hope you have the opportunity to take the pandemic as a reset button; like the vagus nerve, we can reset what we believe our lives must be like, simplify and enjoy more while working and worrying less, enjoying more and living in the I AM, not in the past or future. My wish for you, for me, for us all.


Personal News for October 2020

Back to Crete?

Beginning in September or even late August, I had hoped to move to Crete until January. Sadly, will we ever get back to Crete at all? The pandemic, and the U.S. response, has made it clear that we're the outlier in the world in terms of how NOT to deal with a pandemic. VOTE.

Going forward

Remember, if you're still looking for bodywork now that I'm retiring, Garrell Herndon has his training from the Guild for Structural Integration and sees clients at Bodysmith on St Louis Street in Springfield. He's also taken CORE II with me. His phone number is 416-871-4709. Call him now that I'm not seeing clients.

Okay, I hope you'll take the time to find my Facebook pages or in some way stay connected. May we all live through this next month, this election, the pandemic, and this crazy world we have right now!

Keep breathing.